CRAVE ONLINE: Where’s the line between pursuing women and “douchebaggery?”
Eric Rogell: Here’s a good litmus test: A douche bag sees a woman as an enemy to be conquered, while a man who pursues women sees them as a worthy adversary who may end up becoming a valued ally if he handles the situation with diplomacy and finesse.
And it’s not as fine a line as you would think. While doing my research for the book, and talking to guys all over the country, I was surprised to learn that the vast majority weren’t looking for a quick way to trick women into bed or to sleep with hundreds of chicks. They just wanted a realistic, useful, proven strategy to meet that ONE great woman they could have a relationship with. So the douche bag potential was low.
Still douchebaggery exists everywhere. Women have developed pretty keen Douche-dar. That’s not to say the techniques and strategies in the book can’t be used for evil. But so can lasers…
CRAVE ONLINE: If there was one lesson to take from your book — one thing with which to leave the reader — what would like it to be?
Eric Rogell: The hidden “ah-ha!” of the book, and the real way to get the women you desire, is simply by being a better man… Being the kind of man the women you’re after WANT to date, WANT to have fun with, WANT to spend time with. It’s not about pickup lines and canned routines. Those simply help you break the ice, get over your fears, and get in the game. It’s really all about the art of attraction and being “attractive,” not in the sense of looks or physicality, but in the sense of how you carry yourself, your attitude, your strength—the things that women are truly attracted to in men. And, yeah, that takes more work than just learning a few indirect openers.